“Be transformed by the renewing of your minds.”
Keep your perspective
A few good thoughts from Lao Tzo for loving couples:
Nurturing your love is like tending a small garden. If you keep pulling up the plants to see if the roots are growing your will harvest nothing.
If you focus on your troubles you give them added power. Step aside as would a martial arts master. The troubles still exist, but your are not unbalanced by their blows. They lose their power to disturb. they become food for growth.