Our Social Brain

Daniel Goleman, two-time Pulitzer nominee and former science reporter for the New York Times has written a book called, social intelligence, which is a follow up to his first book called Emotional intelligence,the New Science of Human Relationships . I am surprised it has not gotten more attention, but it is a great read. What Dr. Goleman has found out that:

“One person’s inner state affects and drives the other person. That we are forming brain-to-brain bridges – a two-way traffic system – all the time. We actually catch each other’s emotions like a cold”. Goleman goes on to say, “ If we’re in toxic relationship with people who are constantly putting us down, this has actual physical consequences”.

Another main point he makes is that our social brains are wired for kindness, despite all the killings and murders we see on our TV screens. Perhaps the most inspiring piece of the social-intelligence puzzle is neuroplasticity: the discovery that our brains never stop evolving. “Stem cells manufactures 10,000 brain cells every day till you die.

I found this book to be very inspirational, hopeful and spiritual and in the same time backed by science and facts. Click here to read one of his interviews where he said:

"We need to remind ourselves more often to pay attention to the human moment; to put down the BlackBerry, turn off the cellphone, put aside what you're doing for the moment and pay attention to what's going on with the person you're interacting with. Modern life has gotten in the way."