Suffering occurs when we want
other people to love us in the way
that we imagine we want to be loved,
and not in the way that love should manifest itself - free and untrammeled,
guiding us with its force and driving us on.

~excerpt from The Zahir by Paulo Coelho

It took me many years to really get this, but I finally got it. I accept love anyway it comes my way without trying to "control" the love I receive. Love shows up, when you allow it to enter!